Here is an article that our teacher told us to read.
Julia was in 6th grade and had been at her school since kindergarten. Her two best friends were Wendy and Erin. Erin was the most popular girl in the class and all the girls saw her as the leader. One morning Julia arrived at school and Erin was acting weird. When Julia said hi to her, she didn’t respond. She just looked away and smiled at a group of girls in the corner of the classroom.
It didn’t take long for Julia to figure out that Erin had turned most of the girls against her. But, she didn’t know why! She went to Wendy and asked her why Erin was mad at her. Wendy acted nervous and said that all she knew was that Erin told her that if she hung out with Julia, none of the rest of the girls would talk to her anymore.
The rest of that day lasted forever. Whenever the teacher was looking everyone was nice to Julia. But, when her back was to the class, Erin or another girl would throw pieces of paper toward Julia or whisper to each other and look in her direction. Julia thought Wendy would help her but Wendy just pretended nothing was happening.
That night Julia talked to her parents and they told her to wait and see if tomorrow was better. If not, they said, perhaps they could help Julia talk to Erin and work through the problem. Julia felt like that would make her look stupid if everyone found out that her mom and dad had to get involved. She knew that sometimes the class would pick on someone, but she never thought her friends would turn against her and do the same thing to her. She felt like she didn’t have any friends and nobody liked her.
The next day was even worse. No one wanted to hang out with her at recess and she had to sit by herself at lunch. At the end of lunch she went into the girls’ bathroom. While she was there, a girl from her class came in and said that Erin had sent her in and that Julia had to take off her shoes and send them back to Erin or no one would talk to her tomorrow. Julia just wanted to go home. She didn’t want to cry but she was confused and hurt and scared. She gave the girl her shoes.
Now she was late for class and was in the bathroom with no shoes. She headed to class and walked in quietly with her head down. Before she could get to her chair, the teacher asked her why she was late and where her shoes were.
Here was her dilemma. What should she do now? Everyone was watching her. If she told the teacher about Erin and the girls ganging up on her she would look like a snitch, and who knows what the kids would do to her after that. But, if she didn’t say anything or lied to the teacher, she would get into trouble.
What do you think Julia should do now?
I think Julia should just tell the teacher or else her life would be even more horrible than it is now. It is better to have no friends than to friends that really hate you and want to hurt you by taking your stuff or blackmailing you.
Why do you think Wendy didn’t stick up for Julia?
I think that Wendy didn’t stick up for Julia because all the girls would have turned against her too. If she did then she would have been a really nice friend but she didn’t because she didn’t want everbod to hate her.
Has this sort of thing happen ever happened to you or to someone you know?
This has never happended to me or anyone I know.
Have you ever been in Wendy’s position? Erin’s?
No, I have not ever been in Wendy’s or Erin’s postition. If I was in Wendy’s postition then I would have just keep being friends with Julia. If I was in Erin’s I would have stopped being mean to her and start helping her.
How do you think this situation would be different if the case involved boys instead of girls?
It would have been even more horrible because sometimes the guys are tougher then the girls. If that did happen I think that the girls should help Julia stick up to the boys.
Why do you think people pick on others, and why do others join in?
I think that people pick on others because they just think that they are nasty and that the have never given them a chance as a friends, so they pick on each other. I think others join in because the don’t want to be picked on too.
Have you ever felt that a good friend turned his or her back on you? What happened and what did it feel like?
I haven’t ever felt that way but if I did I would have tried to become friends again instead of making a new enemy. I think I would have feel really embarrased and would have tried to tell someone.
I think that people shouldn’t treat other people like that. They should treat everone fairly instead of making everyone turn against him or her. That’s what I think.

- Margaret